Perhaps that is the true forgiveness, and perhaps that is obtainable, but there are few times that when forgiveness was attempted, in my life, it didn't look like this.
During the darkest time of my life, my Pastor suggested that I seek forgiveness from a person that hurt me so deeply, there was no chance I could do it. He told me that in the scriptures where it teach us how to pray, we are told "forgive us our trespasses, AS WE FORGIVE those that trespass against us. He said if I didn't do it, I couldn't be forgiven. I was devastated to say the least. This was the same person that made me loose my will to live at one point in my life. How could I? But if I couldn't be forgiven by God unless I forgave this person, than I had no choice.
I picked up the phone. I dialed the number. I gulped as this person picked up. I said... "I just wanted to let you know that I forgive you." This person said, "you didn't do this for me, you did it for yourself!" and hung up the phone. She was right....
Was this forgiveness?
Another time I begged forgiveness from someone in our church who felt I had done her wrong. I honestly still don't know what I did, but because of me, she left our church. I begged her for a couple years to forgive whatever it was I did, I attempted through emails, texts, facebook to undo the wrong I did, even though I didn't know what wrong it was. She finally responded after several years.... "I've forgiven you along time ago, now don't contact me again...."
Was this forgiveness?
One time God showed me, in a dream, an individual that hurt me worse than anyone ever, who had falling in a deep pit. I believe the pit was hell...it was a very scary dream. She was screaming like I've never heard anyone scream before in my life. Her nails were clawing deep into the sides of the pit, bleeding.....trying not to fall in.... I ran, I dove, I grabbed her wrists and I pulled with all my might. I would never let her fall in there...NEVER, I would try to save her.
Was that forgiveness?
Sometimes forgiveness might not look like what we would like it to look like. Bottom line is, when you think it is unobtainable, try to think if this person was in a life and death situation. Would you save them? If so, than forgiveness is obtainable and it's worth the effort.