As I listened to the music, my mind wandered to all sorts of different things...but all based on one topic. Relationships gone wrong. Whether it was cheating, being lonely, drugs, sex, or other, the music all reflected bad relationships. One more thing caught my attention, that as a woman, my emotions were being pulled in all directions.
Women seem to have a natural desire to want to give, to want to please, to want to be admired and adored, to be a helper, to give love, to receive love and to nurture their families. Many people enjoy the fact that it was "Eve" that made the mistake, in the garden, of listening to that sneaky snake. But men...we aren't far from Eve...the messages we hear, is what touches our hearts...we have a desire and we have a downfall.
As a result of Eve's downfall, God said in Genesis 3:16
Then he said to the woman,
“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy,
and in pain you will give birth.
And you will desire to control your husband,
but he will rule over you.
We have a natural desire to want from our husbands, and in the absence of a husband, we may take that desire to other sources. When doing so, we become a slave to our emotions and to the curse we received from disobedience.
I think the key to the desire of a woman is to spend some time in solitude. To find out our true identity. To fight the battle that goes on within us about those things we dislike about ourselves. If we are looking for something other to fill that spot in our hearts, other than God, then we are going to be sadly mistaken each time. It's hard to spend time alone. We aren't wired to be alone. We are not wired to want to be in solitude. We desire companionship, it's what we were designed for...to be a helper. Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
But until we are able to walk on confident ground of who we are in Christ, we might fall for every stupid love song out there.
PS. If your looking for excellent love songs, try K-Love and Praise FM...helps change your perspective. :)