I remember a time where my husband and I were in danger of divorce. We had both made some brutal mistakes in marriage and our family was suffering because of it. I remember I wanted to go to Court and have them resolve the issue. Before doing so, however, I grabbed my Bible, (as my Mom had done so many times when I was little,) and I began to read. I opened that Bible and I anticipated God would point out all the wrongs my husband was doing and I would be edified and built up and God would make me feel better.
That must not be what God's plan was.
I opened that Bible and I began to read about MY life, and the things I was doing. God had put ME on the spot light, he had revealed MY contributions to the marital issues. God was working on ME.
It's a good thing God knows what he's doing.
I had another circumstance just recently where I contemplated taking an issue to the Court. However, under the direction of my husband, he advised me to reach out to my prayer team. Those advisors that not only loved me, but would not consider my emotional roller coaster when offering scripturally sound advice. While praying, I got down on my face on the floor and I bowed to God's will and not to my emotions. It's a hard thing folks, to try to forgive people when they've hurt you in places so deep you feel like you can't recover. But God is a God of restoration.
God restores what is broken, and he starts with you.
1 Corinthians 6 New International Version (NIV)
6 If any of you has a dispute with another, do you dare to take it before the ungodly for judgment instead of before the Lord’s people? 2 Or do you not know that the Lord’s people will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? 3 Do you not know that we will judge angels? How much more the things of this life! 4 Therefore, if you have disputes about such matters, do you ask for a ruling from those whose way of life is scorned in the church? 5 I say this to shame you. Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to judge a dispute between believers? 6 But instead, one brother takes another to court—and this in front of unbelievers!
7 The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated? 8 Instead, you yourselves cheat and do wrong, and you do this to your brothers and sisters. 9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
in Christ Jesus.