I am one of those very intense people pleasers. I find the adverse effect of this behavior shutting down and roller coaster depression. It's easy to become a chameleon with an extremely amazing ability to adapt to any color around you. The interesting thing about that is that you can change your color so many times, you become invisible and lost, because you really don't know what color is really the color you were created to be.
I have an interesting time with social media to say the least, for a chameleon it becomes color overload. Every post, is anxiety, because either someone is not going to "like" it. No one ever "shares" it, and the comment is there to either socialize or give your opinion. Now to a people pleaser, it is imperative that they are constantly encouraged and approved of, otherwise they instantly believe that they don't belong to that color and they will change, and they will continue to do so until they implode. When a Chameleon implodes, they disappear with their surroundings. This happens to a Chameleons because of their reactions to their surroundings.
I find that the best way to overcome the need to be a Chameleon is to jump into the Word of God. There is some tough stuff in there, you will have to face about yourself. There is also truth in there, to help you untwist the lies. There is no condemnation, there is no rejection, there is no instruction that you can not bare. God doesn't ask you to change your color, he asks you to be your color. This sometimes isn't the color you've become...so sometimes hard change is necessary.
People have all sorts of opinions, and if you listen to them, you will become quite confused and more than likely a large ball of depression. If you listen to what God says, your confusion will lessen, your perspective will become clear, and you will find joy in HIS companionship. If you seek loyalty of man, over loyalty to God...you will always be let down.
There are 31 Proverbs for 31 days in a long month. There is much wisdom in there. Take some time this month to read the Proverb of the Day!
I have an interesting time with social media to say the least, for a chameleon it becomes color overload. Every post, is anxiety, because either someone is not going to "like" it. No one ever "shares" it, and the comment is there to either socialize or give your opinion. Now to a people pleaser, it is imperative that they are constantly encouraged and approved of, otherwise they instantly believe that they don't belong to that color and they will change, and they will continue to do so until they implode. When a Chameleon implodes, they disappear with their surroundings. This happens to a Chameleons because of their reactions to their surroundings.
I find that the best way to overcome the need to be a Chameleon is to jump into the Word of God. There is some tough stuff in there, you will have to face about yourself. There is also truth in there, to help you untwist the lies. There is no condemnation, there is no rejection, there is no instruction that you can not bare. God doesn't ask you to change your color, he asks you to be your color. This sometimes isn't the color you've become...so sometimes hard change is necessary.
People have all sorts of opinions, and if you listen to them, you will become quite confused and more than likely a large ball of depression. If you listen to what God says, your confusion will lessen, your perspective will become clear, and you will find joy in HIS companionship. If you seek loyalty of man, over loyalty to God...you will always be let down.
There are 31 Proverbs for 31 days in a long month. There is much wisdom in there. Take some time this month to read the Proverb of the Day!
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