Will it be at the words of someone's opinion?
Will it be at the truth in the words of God?
It will be this perspective change that will be the answer for you.
I'm with you, I don't like religious spirits that are controlling people. What I mean by this, is I don't like all the laws and rules that you have to follow to go to a particular church. I don't want things structured by man, I want them to be structured by God.
I do believe in the laws of God...those are trustworthy. Do I like them all? No. But I trust them. I trust that, in them, hold the key to all the answers and questions I've had, and you have.
Let's not make this life about man made rules, we follow those out of respect and authority, but let's make this life about living for Christ. We all struggle the same, regardless of what the package looks like on the outside. That's why God looks at our heart, it's not as easy to cover with makeup, clothes or a fake smile.
One thing I've learned is that God is love... and what that does to a heart, is incomparable.